Dear Trinity,
My best friend keeps pushing me to get rid of my glasses and get contacts. He says it will help my dating and sex life. But what's wrong with glasses?
Eye Contact(s), Kansas City, Mo.

Dear Eye Contact(s),
If truth be told, glasses hide your face, block your eyes and get in the way of kissing. In other words, honey, bachelors with glasses must also own contacts. Yes, glasses are convenient and make you look sophisticated but contacts let others see into your eyes, to trust your face and to feel like they're getting a sense of you, maybe even experience "love at first sight." The eyes are the "key to the soul" and to better dating.

Dearest DWI,
There are four stages of dealing with a death (and a break up): shock, sadness, anger and finally resolution. Resolution takes the longest and has the most emotional waves of happy, sad, anger and eventual peace. Breaking up means taking a journey back through all the emotions you felt on your way towards loving someone. Eventually, sweetie, you will learn to live without their money, I mean without them.

Dearest Trinity,
My boyfriend of 11 months recently dumped me via the phone. Doesn’t anyone in the gay world realize just how much work goes into a relationship? Isn’t it unfair?
Unfair. Boulder, Colo.

Dearest Unfair,
You mean after 11 months, one full moon the phone rings and he says, “You’re not what I wanted.” And you’re left alone to think, “What, after all this...you’re ending it on the phone?” That’s when it’s time to send:

Hey Opening Night Jitters,
There are many positive and negative realities to an open relationship. I printed the positive ones a few columns back so after years of thought here are:
Trinity's Negative Realities For Starting An Open Relationship

1. Love: If you or your partner falls in love with someone else, everything is over.

2. Diseases: If one of you "slips" up, the other one will also catch the "slipper."

3. Balance: If one partner gets too crazy while the other one hardly indulges at all, there will be a major imbalance.

4. Dissatisfaction: If someone else pleases your partner more than you, then the sex between you two may get boring or non-existent.

5. Jealousy: If you bring someone home for yourself or a third person for both of you, but he/she's more into only one of you, someone may get jealous.

6. The Game: If you think finding sex or other people to have an open relationship with is easy, you may just find out that it's a very difficult game.

7. The Search: If finding someone else means going out, searching the internet and so on, that means less time to work on your own relationship.

8. The Rhythm: If one of you isn't on the same sexual schedule as the other one, you may not be able to keep both sex-lives going for long.

9. The Third One: If someone else decides they want one or both of you, you now have to eal with someone else's stalking, obsessions or desires.

10. Lastly, Your Other Problems: If you start an open relationship, then this doesn't mean your other problems will disappear or any new problems won't appear.

Don't let your questions go unanswered!
With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of Spiritually Speaking, a weekly radio drama and now performs globally.

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Don’t let your answers go unanswered!
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama and now performs globally.

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