Hi
Trinity,
It’s been five years and I still love my boyfriend. However, he’s
selfish and as time goes on he gets less and less eager to compromise.
I’m beginning to feel like a doormat. What can I do?
My Way, Kansas City, Mo.
Hi My Way,
Today, in the “me” generation, selfish people are as common
as bad governments. Plus, if he’s the youngest child, was spoiled
and/or is a Scorpio then you’re in triple-selfish trouble. Pumpkin,
this may take some research and trickery. First try getting him (with you)
to volunteer at a hospital or kids center to open his mind to the needs
of others. Second, try having “selfless day” at home so he
can practice doing for you and vice versa. And, lastly, see if there are
some books on selfish children. If there aren’t, use this experience
to write one!
Dear Trinity,
My last date went ballistic about my driving “too crazy.” Isn’t
that ridiculous? Why should I change the way I drive when someone else
is in my car?
Driving Date-saster, Los Angeles, Calif.
Dear Driving
Date-saster,
When you’re on a date you are on a date, not on some Worldwide Ironman
competition to prove yourself. Yes, you’re wrong to strap someone
into a car seat and then set out to show them who is in control of their
entire destiny. Honey, when driving on a date be respectful, at ease and
calming, not a showoff.
Hello
Trinity,
My lover and I are very happy, but when it comes to orgasms it’s
always him or me. Even though I’m a biologist it’s hard to
time our orgasms, which makes mutual satisfaction an issue. Help?
Timing’s Everything, Miami, Fla.
Hello Timing’s Everything,
Uncontrolled orgasms happen, but after a while you should have some idea
of when both volcanos are going to erupt, especially if you’re a
scientist. Listen, babe, when one of you gets “close,” shake
off the blissful feeling and start practicing mutual eruptions. Sometimes
you just have to be a scientist in the heat of the moment.
Dearest
Trinity,
After three years with my husbear it happened, our sex life has hibernated.
Is it inevitable or is there some trick?
Unsatisfied Bear, Orlando, Fla.
Dearest Unsatisfied,
Sex with the same person is like eating at the same restaurant — it
becomes undesirable after a while. Sweetie, that’s why restaurants
change their menus every few years just like you must do. But for now start
reading:
Tips
To Keep Sex, Desire And Interest Between You And Your Date
1. Try having sex in different rooms or places other than the bedroom. A
lot can happen in the kitchen or shower, especially at a romantic resort.
2. Try different ways of doing the same thing, especially trying different
sexual positions and/or being more aggressive.
3. Try different afrodisiacs, such as scented oils, wines or herbs before
laying down for sex.
4. Try different times of the day. Wake up early, go to bed early or try
doing it in the afternoon.
5. Try clearing your mind during sex while focusing on naughty thoughts
with your partner.
6. Try using all five senses differently, i.e. smelling and tasting new
areas.
7. Try talking dirty to each other on the phone or the internet before
getting together that night. Also try talking dirty during sex (no laughing).
8. Try spraying nice scents into the air conditioner, on the bed and on
your privates. It always works for me. Also think candles, incense and
music.
9. Try stimulating different erogenous zones such as behind the knees and
elbows, in the armpits or lower back and around the neck and feet.
10. Lastly, try not breaking up “again” just because the sex
got boring “again.” Life is what you make it so make your sex
life fun!
Don’t let your answers go unanswered!
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama and now performs globally.
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