The
bar, the greatest date and the unreturned phone calls
Hey
Trinity,
I went to the bar, met the greatest guy and had the greatest night. But
I had to work the next day so we exchanged numbers. Great, right? Well,
I’ve called three times in four days and nothing. And this isn’t
the first time it has happened. Is it me, him, the places I go or just
bad karma?
Bad Karma, San Diego, Calif.
Hey Bad Karma,
It seems like some guys meet and marry even before the bar closes and some
meet, promise to marry and can’t even get to the first date. I agree,
honey, it’s an unkind, inconsistent and frustrating world of meeting,
greeting, mating and dating. But you must be stronger than 100 fools, tougher
than a kid in a candy store and more resilient than a bad politician. Whether
or not it’s you, him, the place or bad karma, it’s life, the
game of life and if you’re alive you’re playing it. Now, next
time don’t get so attached so quickly.
Hello Trinity,
If I’m an aging and not so attractive gay man who hasn’t had
a date in years is there anything I can do to turn back the clock?
Turn Back Time, Atlanta, Ga.
Hello Turn Back Time,
There’s great pride in aging, but, yes, that won’t get you
date. Just like nature has a way of turning a winter bush into a summer
bouquet you have ways of turning back time. Have a makeover, join a gym,
take some self-awareness courses (i.e., the Forum or Insight Seminars)
and take some acting classes and/or dating courses (i.e., the Leaning Annex).
Pumpkin, it’s not who you think you are but what you do about it
that makes you dateable.
Dearest
Trinity,
Why does dating hurt so much?
Dating Pangs, Key West, Fla.
Dearest Dating Pangs,
Dating always was, is and will be just a 50/50 chance that two people take.
Just like life, dating is all about trial and error, success and failure,
idiots and interesting people. But this should make you stronger not weaker.
So, if on your deathbed your last words are, “Boy, did I have an
adventurous life,” then, sweetie, you win.
Dear
Trinity,
I was with my girlfriend for what I thought would be forever. But then
she ended it. And now she wants to be “friends.” What for?
Friends?, San Diego, Calif.
Dear Friends?,
While you’d like to think, being enemies is better than being friends,
sometimes couples make really great, life-long friends. And, if you’re
still skeptical, try reading:
Trinity’s
Rational Tips For Why To Stay Friends With Your Ex
1.
Because she has a car and you don’t.
2. Because he has a lot more money than you and isn’t afraid to share
it.
3. Because she knows a lot of people in your career and is willing to help
you.
4. Because he owns your apartment or the house you rent.
5. Because she works for the airlines and is still willing to give you
buddy passes.
6. Because he’s your boss at work and you really, really like your
job.
7. Because she’s the mother of your child, children, dog or cats.
8. Because he’s a great person who really just didn’t want
to date you and would rather be friends. And he makes a great friend.
9. Because he’s a doctor, lawyer, cop or judge and you can never
have enough of those friends. (Think — free information).
10. Because he or she may be available one day for that one special night
when you just need a good quicky.
11. Lastly, because having one more ex as an enemy means at every party,
club or social event you’ll be surrounded by yet one more enemy-ex.
And who need that.
Don’t let your answers go unanswered!
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama and now performs globally.
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