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Barflies, distant men and losers

Hello Trinity,
I met someone at the bar who says he “wants to be with me,” yet doesn’t want to do non-bar related stuff together. When I confront him he compares me to his abusive ex. Should I continue seeing him or are there other issues I haven’t figured out?

He Loves Me — Not, Green Bay, Wisc.

Hello He Loves Me — Not,
I don’t have much experience with abusive relationships, but I do with barflies, distant men and losers. And, honey, when someone doesn’t want to get close, they either need more time, need a therapist or are really not interested. Either way, do you really need him, his ex or this smoky situation? When someone likes someone they show it not avoid it. If it were me, I’d move on — to the bar next door.


Hey Trinity,
Come on! You know it’s all about sex, sex appeal and money when it comes to getting picked up. Don’t you think all this talk about “inner” beauty or intelligence is bull?

Beauty Or Bull, South Beach, Fla.

Hey Beauty Or Bull,
Yes, what you look like and have in the bank really helps to catch and keep someone, but eventually it’s inner charm, strength and humor that keep two people happy. So you better have something “inside” that appears when your looks and money disappear.


Hey Trinity,
My friends claim I’m neglecting them because of my new girlfriend. I want to spend time with them, but I don’t want to neglect my new relationship. When is it safe to start spending time away from a relationship?

Time Away, Sante Fe, N.M.

Hey Time Away,
According to “The Rules,” a book for women to catch and keep men, which could apply to many relationships, “not being 100 percent available makes you look important and worthy.” Thus it’s never neglectful, but rather healthy to spend time apart because that’s what successful people do.


Dearest Trinity,
My relationship is not perfect, but my other half thinks it should be. What does it take to make the perfect relationship?

The Perfect Solution, Baton Rouge, La.

Dearest Perfect Solution,
Having the perfect relationship, pumpkin, is an unrealistic expectation, unless of course you have a staff of 10 scholars guiding you through every situation. So, post this list on your fridge and see if your other half lightens up:


Trinity’s Degrees, Training Programs And Licenses You’re Expected To Have For The Perfect Relationship

1. A Psychology Degree: Because you’ll be expected to know just how to figure out, point out and prove it’s not your fault.

2. An Accounting Degree: Because anyone can go crazy spending and you’ll be expected to know just how to pay for it.

3. A Law Degree: Because misunderstandings and/or accidents happen and you’ll be expected to defend your innocence.

4. A Handyman’s License: Because things break and you’ll be expected to fix them. So keep the manuals.

5. A Chauffeur’s License: Because loved ones need a ride or a move and you’ll be expected to drive anyone everywhere so that everyone’s happy.

6. A Psychic’s License: Because you’ll be expected to “know” or “see” everything especially things that were never said or shown to you yet.

7. A Secretary’s Training: Because mistakes come back to haunt you and you’ll be expected to “pull up” everything in perfect detail proving just what really happened.

8. A Motivational Leaders Training: Because one of you will surely be less motivated and you’ll be expected to “take responsibility” and “recreate a new outcome.”

9. A Telephone Lineman’s Training: Because communication lines breakdown and you’ll be expected to know just the right “line” to make it all work right.

10. A Nanny’s License: Because even if there’s no children you’ll eventually be expected to clean, cook, sew, nurture and keep everyone “pacified.”


Don’t let your answers go unanswered!
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama and now performs globally.

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