Hello Trinity,
Being single is okay, but sometimes it seems so much easier to stay home than to go out just to be ignored. And when I do date, it only lasts awhile anyway. Rejection sucks so why bother trying?
Rejecting Rejection, Boulder, Colo.

Hello Rejection,
Sure, rejection sucks compared to acceptance. You remember acceptance, that promise of love and the moon until one day you get a letter, call or email leaving you devastated yet again. Well, newsflash! Rejection has nothing to do with you, but rather with what someone fantasizes about at the time they meet you. Someone’s acceptance, rejection or reality of you is not, never was and never will be about you — rather it’s about their own rules and regulations. If you’re someone’s “type” you’re in, period; if not, you’re out, end of game. So, honey, get out and live a rejectionless life because it’s about playing with rejection not fearing it.

Dear Trinity,
I was dating someone whom I caught stealing money from me. I’m trying to move on but I just can’t get rid of the anger. Any ideas?
Releasing The Putz, Toledo, Ohio

Dear Releasing,
It’s not easy, but you must try a little everyday to move on. Here’s a trick: In your head, imagine a flat picture of him or her, then change it to black and white, then let it get blurry and, lastly, let it fade into the distance until it disappears. It could be a headshot or their entire body (lying in a coffin … I didn’t say that!). What typically happens with NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming, is their image becomes distant and unclear in your head and eventually in your heart. Oh, and next time, pumpkin, hide your money better.

Hey Trinity,
Why on earth would a couple have an open relationship if there’s nothing wrong?
Why Open, Portland, Ore.

Hey Why Open,
Yes, if it’s not broken don’t fix it, but if it’s boring, stale or in trouble why not fix a martini and read:

Why have an open relationship?
1. Because it may only take a few encounters to put the sexual spark back into your relationship.

2. Because you’ve been with the same nonsexual slob for years and it’s time to spice up the soup or — toss it out.

3. Because you’re incredible together except sexually and this way you may discover new positions, I mean possibilities, for being even more together.

4. Because you’ve tried everything else to please each other like food and fetish toys and this may just be wonderful.

5. Because your spouse keeps pushing you to do it and instead of spending time at a lawyer’s office filing for divorce, why not spend time in bed trying something new.

Why not have an open relationship?
6. Because it’s just one more thing getting in the way of the lack of sex drive in your relationship.

7. Because you just want to be single anyway so you’d be wasting everyone’s time making believe you really want this relationship.

8. Because it may destroy your relationship altogether.

9. Because someone may just get emotionally hurt or destroyed.

10. Because you might as well just break up, count your losses and start a relationship with someone who really wants to have sex with just you.

Don’t let your answers go unanswered!
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama and now performs globally.

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