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Going above and beyond your league

Hey Trinity,

I’m not unattractive, but I’m attracted to guys way out of my league. How do I meet and eventually date someone way better looking than me?

Upping The Ante, Peoria, Ill.

Hey Upping The Ante,

Every day people hook up with others “out of their league” simply because someone said, “Hello.” While yes, looking your best is important, pumpkin, it’s more about who you talk to, how you talk to them and mentally psyching yourself up to simply talk. Failure and rejection are part of life just like acceptance and success so don’t fear them, work with them. First, think professional makeover because you need to look better than you “think” you are; second, learn (from others) some smart/witty lines for striking up conversations; and third, buy ’em a drink. Oh, and very attractive people can also be nasty, have low self-esteem and make bad lovers just like unattractive ones.


Hello Trinity
I’ve been dumped again and it’s taking its toll on me. What am I supposed to do, make believe I’m happy when I’m really so sad?

So Sad, Fire Island, N.Y.

Hello So Sad,

Well, yes and no. Yes, when you’re sad get into it 100 percent! Never avoid it. And no, don’t let your sadness control you. Practice making believe what it was like to be happy until eventually you feel good more often than bad. If actors can “create” feelings so can you. Just fake it till you make it, honey!


Listen Trinity,

Sometimes my mouth doesn’t say what my brain is thinking. Recently on a date I just kept saying the wrong things. It’s been a week. What’s the best way to apologize?

My Big Fat Mouth, Portland, Maine

Listen Big Mouth,

The best way to apologize is: send flowers, emails and letters apologizing; be consistent in begging for forgiveness and don’t debate them when receiving their comments; communicate what happened, how you’re working on getting better and how it won’t happen again; and when you’re face to face, lower your head, bat your eyes, push out your lower lip and say, “I’m sorry, baby!” Works for me!


Dearest Trinity,

Just cause I’m single do I always have to look the part? Must I always be selling myself?

A Bachelor Life, Orlando, Fla.

Dearest Bachelor Life,

If business people have to look the part to succeed so do you with dating. It’s called dressing for success. Also success means having a list of commitments or declarations. That’s why I created:


Trinity’s Concrete Declarations For Being A Good Bachelor(ette)

1. Presentation: I promise to always appear groomed, well dressed and clean.

2. Self-Esteem: I promise to work on being less shy, less boring, less of a couch potato and less defensive.

3. Manners: I promise to be polite, considerate and respectful to the time, money and imperfections of other people.

4. Integrity: I promise to return phone calls and emails, be on time and communicate clearly if I can’t.

5. Trust: I promise to trust my path in life, to trust uncomfortable, negative or challenging situations, to trust my dreams and to trust my intuition.

6. Environment: I promise to keep my living space presentable even if it means hiring someone twice a month to help me look less like a slob.

7. Education: I promise to continually work on my social skills plus the skills of cooking, cleaning, dressing, etiquette and being a better person.

8. Self-Growth: I promise to work on my self-respect, self-confidence, self-esteem and self-actualization.

9. Health: I promise to exercise, sleep and eat well, take time off from stress and think positive thoughts.

10. Lastly, Action: I promise at least once a week to go to a singles event or club that will help me meet other singles.


Don’t let your answers go unanswered!
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama and now performs globally.

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