Dear Trinity,
I broke up with my ex-boyfriend almost two years ago and
still can’t get him out of my head. Now he wants
to get back together again, but it’s always just
to see if the
relationship will rework. Should I give him another chance?
One More Time, Utica, N.Y.
Dear OMT,
If you have a chance to make a bad thing worse then run — fast — but
if you have a chance to make a bad thing better than yes
give it another chance. Taking chances is what life’s
all about, baby. However, don’t move in together right
away just to relive old problems. This time insist on outside
counseling, insist on talking through everything and insist
on taking your time. Remember, a good man is hard to find
but a bad relationship is easy.
Hello Trinity,
I broke up with my girlfriend only to come home one
day to find that she moved out and took everything.
I loved her but now I hate her. I’m in court
to get my stuff back, but, Trinity, why do relationships
always have to end so cruelly? Love Hurts. Phoenix, Ariz.
Hello Love Hurts,
Sometimes a lover thinks he or she deserves it all,
needs to make you pay for it all or is just a downright
crook. It happens not just on “Court TV.” So
try to get your things back, try to get some peace
of mind and, honey, try to accept that sometimes love
gives and sometimes it takes away
Dear Trinity,
I’m gay, 42 and dating a much younger guy, 27. I always
want to pay for dinner, but I’m afraid he’ll
think because I’m older this is how it should always
be. How do I not create a pattern?
Setting Young Patterns, Minneapolis, Minn.
Dear Setting Young Patterns,
The fact is, when two people meet, immediately patterns begin
to form depending on who’s cuter, pushier or more addictive.
It’s just human nature, sweetie. Now, if one is older
and/or financially better off then why not pay? After the
third date (at a cheaper diner) hopefully he’ll say, “I’ll
get this one?” By gently supporting him in paying now
you’ll create a healthier balance. In my book older
and/or wealthier men should pay for younger men, it’s
nature’s way of keeping everyone well fed and visually
satisfied.
Dearest Trinity,
I’m gay, bearded and I have a belly. How do I know
if that makes me a “bear?”
Bearly Sure, Atlanta, Ga.
Dearest Bearly Sure,
There are many ways to know if you’re a bear. So to
start you off on the right paw here are: Trinity’s Hairy Tips For Knowing If (YPAB) You’re
Probably A Bear
(gay-bearded-hefty-man)
1. If you’re gay and have hair on your face, chest,
butt and/or back — YPAB.
2. If you’re gay and have a girth, a belly or if you
look like a childbearing man — YPAB.
3. If you and all your friends look like the wrestler Bill
Goldberg or variations of a cute Santa Clause — YPAB — and
should email me soon.
4. If you have a thick goatee, a sculptured beard or a full
beard — YPAB.
5. If you hang out in gay bars called The Jackhammer, The
Stud or The Thump — YPAB.
6. If most of your shirts have some sort of reference to
bears, bear paws or hibernation, guess what?
7. If most of your other clothes consist of leather, western
or army wear, guess what again, — YPAB.
8. If you use the word “woof” or “grrrr” at
least once a day — YPAB.
9. If you’re “big-boned” and gay and haven’t
dieted in y-e-a-r-s — YPAB.
10. And lastly, if you shave your entire face but still feel
like a hairy, 200 pound girl — YPAB.
Don’t
let your questions go unanswered!
With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of Spiritually
Speaking, a weekly radio drama and now performs globally.
Don’t let your answers go unanswered!
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama and now performs globally.
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