I agree with the above person. No one, gay, straight, male, female, deserves to be raped. It is a terrifying, humiliating experience that has long term effects.

“Brian”, (and the other people who posted.), I hope you find the support you need. Thank you for speaking out about this.

I haven’t told anyone because I know they would say I’m gay and I wanted it, then laugh at me and say I deserved it. I work as a young telecommunicator and radio dispatcher for a police department. I work daily with detectives, sergeants, officers, and other administration. I’ve been to large state trainings on rape. Every single police agency has said men deserve to be raped if they didn’t stop it. That they wanted it, but not to say these things to the public or media because of the problems it would cause.

I’ve seen officers blow of cases of reported male rape, mostly stating “he and his gay lover must be in a fight and he wants to cause problems.” This has been said even when the guy identified himself as straight and had girlfriends.

I read on the internet how police departments state they don’t discriminate between male and female rape, but I am very discouraged about this due to looking from the inside out and seeing what their real feelings and thoughts are from behind closed doors. How they don’t want to deal with it, or how they so frequently take it to lightly.

No one deserves to be raped; gay, straight, male or female. I feel guilty for not bringing attention to the carelessness and illegal disregard in handling male rape cases. Right now I’m still trying to come to terms and deal with what has happened to me. This is one of my first steps.

Written April 30th, 2009